MildlyCrazy’s Blog

Something Old

July 15, 2009 at 5:15 pm (Check!, For me?, Oooh.Pretty!) (name change, traditions)

Weeks ago, I started thinking about my “Somethings.” I don’t know that I’ve made too much progress, but I have tons of ideas.  One reason I’ve been struggling a little is that I think each of these objects should be separate (i.e. no borrowing something old).  I’m also not sure whether these objects should all be worn/carried by me, or if it is enough to have them included in our wedding.

Something old is meant to symbolize continuity with your past.  I love this meaning for a couple of different reasons.  First of all, while my marriage will be new, my relationship will not be, and I think the seven-plus years we’ve shared are a pretty good foundation for our life together.

I have seen some interpretations of “something old” as a way to help a bride stay grounded with her family while joining a new family, and loosing her name.  I’m gladly changing my name, and I have no fears of loosing my side of the family (couldn’t if I tried), but I do think it’s a pretty interesting interpretation.

I have a couple of options for my “something old,” including my antique engagement ring; and the chuppah we’ll be married under, constructed from my great-grandmother’s wedding dress lace.   When my older sister got married, our mother gave her an old embroidered handkerchief.  My mom recently told me that she has one saved for me to carry on my wedding day too, and I couldn’t be happier.

Not my mom's, but who doesn't love a picture? (click for source)

While it was mostly sentimental and ornamental for Kathleen, I know that it will be functional for me.  (Kathleen might have kept her cool, but I sobbed on at her wedding, and my dad had to pass up his handkerchief for me.)   I’m ecstatic to have something so special to wipe my (happy) tears away.

What are some ways you’ve honored that connection to the past, or what was your something old?